If you don’t want to die, then why do you want to live?

I’m on the bus home and it feels like my eyes have been washed anew. The normal distractions and worries that consumed me have been lifted. For the first time since I can remember I have not immediately put my earphones in, quick to block out the outside world. Instead, I want to hear the pulse of the city. I want to look in the faces of the people I share this life with, even if it’s for a brief bus ride. I have newfound compassion for…

Over the past few years, I’ve grown to become a spiritual person. For most of my life I was a proud atheist. I perceived people who were religious as uneducated and unimaginative.

The first time I ever went to church was with my grandmother. I was bored as hell as I sat in an uncomfortable wooden chair, wondering when the man at the front would ever stop talking. Then suddenly everyone rose from their seats. We were asked to eat a piece of stale bread and sip wine. I was shocked by this request and did not want to participate…

I remember reading somewhere that we are all here on this earth to learn a lesson. It’s one that is made for us and only us, like a special recipe concocted in the stars and implanted in our tiny developing foetus.

While it may sound a bit out there, it was extremely comforting to me. For most of my life, I compared my hardships to others. I’d look at those who seemed to have it all together and wonder if they ever struggled. I felt envious as they seemingly sailed through life. ‘Why do I have to deal with this and not them?’ I’d wonder. But maybe they are not here to learn my lesson. They are here to learn theirs, whatever that might be.

While my life has been filled with typical ups and downs, it came to a crushing…

Have you ever felt like a stranger in your own life? Watching other people like you were separated by some invisible wall?

Most of us understand all too well how detrimental loneliness can be if it doesn’t go away. In fact, research has shown that loneliness is worse than smoking or obesity to a person’s health.

Yet we live in a world that is more connected than it has ever been. How is it that so many of us feel lonely?

I’ve recently discovered the work of Gabor Maté, whose teachings on addiction and connection has inspired me deeply. He…

Healing PTSD One Breath at a Time | Kimberly Hetherington
Healing PTSD One Breath at a Time | Kimberly Hetherington

I never considered myself as a trauma survivor.

I didn’t believe I had something as severe as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

A diagnosis of that calibre was only reserved for those who survived war or severe childhood abuse.

It felt dramatic and attention-seeking to label myself as a “trauma survivor.”

I suppose the confusion comes because I didn’t fully understand what trauma actually was. The term tends to be loosely thrown around, and the diagnosis of PTSD was always fused with people who survived war.

But now I’ve come to realise that trauma is more widespread than I once…

Note: Some identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals and places.

“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.” ―Carl Jung

On the night before my internship, my fiancé and I sat down for dinner. I pulled out my phone and checked my bus route to the hospital for the tenth time, making extra sure I got it right.

My fiancé glanced down at my phone and then looked out the window, “wait a minute, I think that building over there…

Don’t get me wrong, Jim is great character and I was lucky to get the part. But don’t think of that as me anymore.”
– Jim Carrey

Jim Carrey was born on January 17th, 1962 in a small town in Ontario, Canada. As a child, he spent a lot of his time alone in his room acting in front of the mirror and sketching in his art book. Carrey’s father, Percy, was a talented musician and comedian. Despite his love for music and comedy, his father was a conservative man and took a financially secure and reliable job as an…

I’m obsessed with podcasts.

It’s like reading, but having the information delivered through your ears. It allows for so many more opportunities to consume information without having to hold a book in front of your face. Or, depending on the podcast, it feels like eavesdropping on some crazy interesting conversation.

My favorite thing is walking, cooking or painting whilst listening to a podcast. I will go out of my way to prolong the walk, or finely chop onions into the tiniest pieces just to listen more.

If you are also podcast-obsessed, then you may find this list valuable. As you’ll…

How do we honor the death of those we loved and lost?
How do we honor the death of those we loved and lost?

I’m at a dinner party with friends when I begin an engaging conversation with a woman I haven’t met before.

Music plays softly in the background as our conversation touches on many different topics. She begins to tell me about a difficult situation she recently faced and how her sister supported her through it. I listen intently while she gushes about how lucky she is. “Life just wouldn’t be the same if I didn’t have her,” she looks at me and smiles. I take a sip of my red wine, her words piercing my heart. There’s a silence and I wonder if now would be a good time to tell her that I too have a sister. …

This piece of writing came out after reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and my mind was blown in the most spectacular way.

I feel like my ego reared its head at a younger age than most people.

I can very distinctly remember a feeling of separateness that started when I was around 4 years old. At the time we were living in Egypt in a beautiful old colonial apartment with high ceilings and white Doric columns in our living room. Outside our home felt like an entirely different world. There were little kids who were the same age…

Kimberly Hetherington

Canadian writer, meditation facilitator, and transpersonal art therapist based in Sydney, Australia. Read more on her website: https://kimberlyhetherington.com/

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